Ideas in silence:

My children teach me something new everyday.  Over time they have taught me patience and understanding, how to have fun again and act like a child…I admit sometimes I take this a little too far, but really what parent doesn’t right?!  They have taught me how to just stop and enjoy life again.   

They have even taught me a little more about injustice, as I have three children somewhat close in age, they know a thing or two about injustice when two are ganging up on one.  Oh and they are excellent at it without getting caught, because as you know, in any sticky situation…everyone is innocent!

They have also taught me how to grow up and be a responsible adult that they can rely on, because they deserve that.  Sometimes as parents I believe we get wrapped up in our day to day responsibilities.  Now this is not to say that these are not important, but they should not be considered more important than those that depend on us and that we in turn depend on in other and different ways.   

When did it become the norm for both parents to work and the child to be raised by someone other than the parent?  Why is it okay for single mothers to make less and pay as much in rent?  Why are there not stipulations on how much you can charge a one income household?  Without settling for a low income or government subsidized program that is a lot of the time, less than adequate with way too many rules and regulations attached.  Including but not limited to giving the housing authorities the right to walk through your property at any time to complete an inspection.  

We are even seeing this in the dual household.  Both parents are having to hold down full time jobs in order to pay for their basic bills and necessities each month.  Leaving little room for time with family or money left over to enjoy themselves.  This is not only hurting our children, but the parents suffer as well.  These parents have to choose between work and plays, sleep or projects, or they have to trade off where one will be present, the other will be absent. This means that each parent has to miss out on half of everything no matter what!

This to me seems highly unacceptable.  Our rate of pay and our housing margins need to be looked at.  If our children are our future, then why is it okay for us to continue to fail them in some way or another?  Why is it okay for us to sacrifice time and important milestones with our children?  What do you think?  Do you enjoy the way things are?  Do you have any ideas for change?  Lets hear it!

Granted this is not a new idea, just one that I was having!  One that I’m sure a lot of other parents are asking as well, but it’s not enough to ask ourselves in silence.  

And so it begins:

Everyone tells you as a child is there is no manual for life, or kids.  They couldn’t be more right, it isn’t until we grow up and gain responsibilities, such as homes, cars, careers and children, that we realize exactly what they are talking about.

No being an adult 101, or here is how you handle a full time job as either a single parent, or a dual parent household where both must work in order to make it.  There is no guideline or specific steps to follow.

And the reason for this is simple.  Everyone is different, different strokes for different folks as they say.  Though with the breakthrough of the current era, where there is a wealth of knowledge here at our fingertips, it’s much easier to have our specific questions answered by professionals, and/or people who have lived experience in such matters.

And so I share with you my own personal experiences in everything, the struggles and lessons I have learned along the way.  My own personal 101 on how to…or not to.

I would also like others to share as well.  I want that different strokes for different folks attitude here, I would like to build a place where people can learn from others and share with others, things that have worked for them when nothing else would, and what hasn’t worked no matter your efforts.

I appreciate everyone for reading and sharing!  Have a wonderful day!